Many still consider the idea that true love finds itself, and support anyone who prefers the traditional ways of meeting people and dating.However, we live in a very large yet very small place at the same time, and chances of meeting your soul mate in your day to day life are relatively slim, especially for those who are preoccupied with work or shy.Social networks provide a new way to communicate with friends and family. With gas prices rising every day, it has also become increasingly popular to see a lot of jobs turn to telecommuting.
Put in perspective, we each probably spent more time apartment hunting than having experiences that helped select our now-divorced spouses. If so, the pundits probably will cite “commoditizing,” and all the good flowing from the concomitant expansion of experience, learning and choice, as why.This is where online dating takes the spotlight; there are plenty of resources out there that act as instruments to help make the search a lot easier.In the twenty-first century, we use the internet for almost everything that we do.First and foremost, online dating is chastised as being a “meat market.” As New York Times columnist David Brooks recently lamented, online daters are “shopping for human beings, commodifying people.” This criticism ignores the huge benefit of “commodified” dating: expanding the world of dating experience, and, hopefully, the knowledge about oneself and others that can flow from it. Despite the critics, online daters are analyzing people across the same spectrum as anyone ever did, just with more choices.For example, having come of age around the same time as Brooks, he and I presumably had access to the same panoply of 1970s and 1980s mate-finding tools: bars, beaches, work, school and introductions through family and friends. The proof of this is the tremendous number of marriages originating online.Also, putting yourself out there online can expose you to unwanted attention from other users.