One final piece of advice: You have to stand out, so be interesting. Don’t look back or think about why she never contacted you – because you will never know why. When someone is having issues with getting matches, it is often times because their settings are just too restrictive.
Share the parts of you that are cool and worthy of discussion. You can discuss your porcelain doll collection on the 10th date. Including one photo of yourself is not really enough. Take another look at them, and consider being more flexible.
The profile for Guy #1 may go something like this: I am an athletic jock looking for fun. You must practice ballet beneath the full moon when the new moon falls on a Tuesday… Guy #1 and Guy #2 may have nice photos and stats, but both speak in ultimatums and mandates. If we attract what we are and if we become what we think about, I’d like to manifest the gentleman who is simple and joyous.
Take a little more time to communicate on that profile, and if you are still at a loss, enlist your sister or gal pal to help with some of those important descriptions. You are pretty much guaranteed more communication if you have a nice mix of photos displayed. In any case, increasing the age range of matches will give you more to choose from! If you reach out to someone and never hear back, move onto the next.
It takes time to find a great partner, so starting your online dating experience with realistic expectations can make all the difference.
If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.
My preference for the online dating pool may be because my social circles don’t bring me into contact with an abundance of single gay men, or because it’s interesting to meet people who are outside my everyday experience. The debut of website that promotes mindful dating—is exciting.
I wonder, though, if what we are being mindful about will be open to wide interpretation.
According to Zoosk’s data, profiles with a selfie as the photo get a negative 8 percent response rate.