The answer is yes – but it takes a whole lot of work! Sure, all those romantic comedies have two people being just friends; then the girl tries to land her “dream guy” and discovers that it’s not him she wants.Instead, she comes to the conclusion that she’s actually in love with her best friend who’s been in love with her for years and never told her.So we figured out – and accepted – that the right man does not magically appear when you’re ready for him.You have to work hard to find someone you really want and really like – or, as one married male friend put it, “someone normal” (apparently normal men are in short supply).Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.Students carrying over high school relationships into college may be bucking the odds, but it hasn't stopped them from trying.The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age.
A guy has fallen for this great, cute, smart girl; they’ve been friends for years, and the guy knows they’d be great together. A sad, uncomfortable look crosses her face and she tries to break it to him gently, saying, “I don’t want to risk our friendship” or “We’re better off just friends.” That phrase is also used as an excuse – by both guys and girls – who don’t want to become romantically involved but don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or destroy a friendship. Maintain that line so there’s no sexual attraction.
They broke up a bit, dated other people at the suggestion of their parents, but stayed in close touch.
"We were only about 100 miles apart, so we were able to see each other on weekends and over the summers, but what happened was because there was so much against us in the beginning, we did try to date other people, and split up," Gee said.
Of all college relationships, nearly 33 percent are long-distance, according to an i Village survey. If you're out of college, think about your Facebook friends: How many are still together with — or even married to — their high school sweethearts?
"It's definitely possible, but it's rare, because the chances of you knowing who you want to be with at 40 when you're 17 are kind of low," said Tracey Steinberg, a dating coach. And it's worth the wait if it's real." Going the (long) distance is not easy: Challenges including overcoming communication barriers, resisting the temptation of a fun, new social life and scraping together the finances to visit each other at separate schools. But the next time you grumble about a spotty Skype connection or a pricey plane ticket, think about Barbara Gee and Gordon Baranco.
"Our parents insisted that we make sure that we looked at other people, to make sure this relationship would be a strong one.