That’s my answer: I just let myself fall in love with him. Do you think physical attraction is all what some of the guys (not all need)? No matter if he would be white, Asian, black, Latino or whoever – it’s his personality that made me stick with him and made me take a risk to change my whole life for him. One acquaintance told me in wonderment that Chinese women are great in the bedroom – as if I wasn't one – to being casually asked if I’d be interested in a guy “who has been with Chinese girls and likes it”.I’ve been left puzzled by the insensitivity, and the lack of awareness that such comments may cause offence.Back then, the term was shorthand for someone white who had a crush on someone Asian, and at our school, it applied to the girls as much as it did the boys.I didn’t think much about yellow fever at the time, though, because my 12-year-old brain was a veritable encyclopedia of crude lingo.Friends are once again teasing me for having “yellow fever,” and as far as facts are concerned, I can’t argue with the designation: My current partner is Chinese-American, while my most recent ex-girlfriend is Vietnamese-Canadian. I can dismiss their playful ribbing the same way I dismissed most name-calling during elementary school—after all, there’s nothing wrong with dating women of Asian descent—but “yellow fever” isn’t an innocuous, empty label. Friends may just be having fun, but to my ears, I’m being called a deviant. Google “yellow fever,” and you’ll see that many Asian women have taken back the term to shame white men who fetishize them based on racial stereotypes.Such men believe all Asian women are docile and hypersexual, and happily project these qualities onto potential romantic partners.
Even thought I’ve always been attracted to Asians, even my ex had Asian features on his face, I never really considered I could be in a mix-culture relationship and make it work out leading us to marriage.In other words, they prey on Asian women simply because they’re Asian.But this essay isn’t about that type of yellow fever. While I’m sympathetic to the plight of Asian women who are exotified by awful white men, this new, zeitgeisty application of the term “yellow fever” hasn’t replaced the way it was used in my schoolyard all those years ago: as a catchall term for Asian person.További tudnivalókat, például a beállítási lehetőségek ismertetését itt találod: A cookie-k használatáról szóló szabályzat.I first heard about “yellow fever” during elementary school after a few guys mentioned it.A tartalmak könnyebb személyessé tétele, a hirdetések személyre szabása és mérése, valamint a biztonságosabb használat érdekében cookie-kat használunk.